Welcome to another Momma Feature!
This momma has been such an inspiration to my life over the last 2 years. Her name is April and she is a force to be reckoned with. I mean she is absolutely amazing. (which is an understatement…) April is the founder and CEO of Beloved Ministry. She is one of the first faces that welcomed me to this new assignment here in the U.K. Through Beloved, April empowered me more than she will ever know. I am so grateful for her stepping up and answering the call that God put on her life. Below is more on my interview with April..
Tell us about yourself.
Hey everybody, I’m April! I’m 36 and loving life in my 30s! I’m married with 2 kids and living the adventurous life the military affords us! I’m a fairly simple girl – I love God, my husband, and my babies! As far as I’m concerned, those 3 things sum up the measure of my joy! Of course, there are other things that I love, like Eeyore, purple, and banana pudding, but if I were to be known by others it definitely wouldn’t be for my love of Mama Mia?! Lol! I read a quote the other day that said this: inner peace is the new success. When I say it, I thought to myself “Yes, Yes, Yes”! If you ever get to know me, you’ll know very soon that I protect my inner peace at all costs! Another thing I want to be known for is my attempt at living out my God given purpose in every area of my life. I want to love well, freely, and fully! These things are important to me! My love for God, my husband, and my babies can reach its potential when I’m loving them well, fully, and freely, so I protect my mind, heart, energy, and schedule! I also love genuine friendship! Loyalty is more important to me than time hanging out or even distance. A friendship that’s ok if I don’t see or talk to you for a stretch of time! One where the assumption is never that our friendship is in trouble, rather it’s a joy to reunite and embrace one another as we catch up on life over laughs and probably some sort of libation! Lol!
What’s the best part of being a parent?
Great question! If I were to pick 1 thing I absolutely LOVE about being a mom, it’s being a mom! Seriously?! I hope it doesn’t seem I’m cheating with that answer! For me, I see motherhood as one of my greatest gifts. I am honored to have been entrusted with these 2 amazing and absolutely crazy kids! My Sophia is sunshine incarnate! My Lenny is both my heart and the reason I’m a praying momma! Lol! I love thinking of the Lord hand-picking my kids for me, and me for my kids. I know He perfectly matched us, giving each of us exactly what the other would need at some point along our journeys together! When life gets overwhelming for me, and ‘momming’ gets tough, even through my tears I find myself repeating this truth into my heart. I love that at any given moment, I can look at my kids and witness one of God’s masterpieces! I love that I get to guide them to being their best selves, and grow into the person God intended them to be when He sent them to me by sharing with them every day just how amazing God is! That’s the best part for me!!
Tell us about your funniest momma moment.
Here it goes: So, I’m in my kitchen cooking one of the many meals I cook each day, and in walks SoSo. “Mommy, I know why you got married to daddy, I figured it out last night?! Me: (trying to keep a calm, cool, and collected tone of voice when responding) “Oh yeah, well tell me why you think I married daddy”. “Because he tickles you and makes you laugh! I always hear daddy tickling you at night after me and Lenny go to bed, so I spied on you guys last night!” Me: (remembering the night before, and now hiding panic while also attempting to keep a heart attack at bay?!) “So you spied on us, huh? It must have been very dark, you probably couldn’t see very much, huh?” Sophia: “Nope! You guys were under the blanket, but I saw Daddy on top of you, and he must’ve really been tickling you because you were moving around so much! Daddy is so silly, right Mommy?!” Me (simultaneous relief and horror): “Yep, he sure is!” The End!
How has your upbringing influenced the momma you are today?
My personal upbringing has influenced so many of the ways I parent today. I was raised with both my parents and 5 siblings! We were raised to love the Lord and each other. My parents sheltered us from so much, and in my 30s I’m so grateful for it! We weren’t able to do a lot of things outside of the church as kids, and always thought my parents were mean for it. Also, I grew up during the time where getting a whoopin’ was a given – both expected and anticipated! Not much talking about what happened was going on in my home. As I mom now, I find myself also sheltering my kids from influences that will contradict the person I’m I’ve been tasked by the Lord to develop them into. Like my parents, my kids are being taught everyday what it means to love the Lord, and what His love for them looks like and means. I also teach them how to love one another. Unlike my parents, I don’t just jump to spank (that’s new age talk for ‘whoop’!) my kids. I want them to understand the situation / circumstance, the truth, and my love for them regardless. So there is MUCH more communication that goes on in my home, versus how I was raised. On the record: I am not against spanking, it happens every once in a while in my home, too.
What are some traits you hope to instill in your children?
This will be a short answer: prayer, love, peace, respect, responsibility, resilience, confidence
Any personal suggestions for balancing life with kids?
Balancing life with kids, for me, means rearranging priorities. When I became a mom, I decided to re-arrange people and projects. My kids didn’t ‘become’ my list, but they were placed above and made a HIGH priority. I knew as they grew older, the number of other things on my list would increase – that helped me keep things in perspective. I kept it pretty simple for the first couple of years, so I wouldn’t be overwhelmed. I took on very few obligations and energy requirements. I didn’t have anything to prove to anyone else, as far as making it seem like I could still do it all AND be a mom. I didn’t want to do it all. And I didn’t just want to be a mom, I wanted to be the mom God called me to be and the mom my children deserved. So I downsized my life during the infancy stages, increased it a bit during toddler years, and I slowly adjust as life with kids allows. This keeps me and my kids healthily sane! Also, I STAY in God’s face! It’s a necessity! Prayer always helps keep life in balance in any area of life by keeping your focus on the things that matter.
Quote, scripture, or advice that you have used to get you through those tough mommy days?
Phillipians 4:6-7 is my life scripture and gets me through all my tough mommy days! Phil 4:6-7: Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.