Being a military spouse, many days you feel like you are in this all alone. For our spouses, work consumes their life. As for us, we have to pick up what is left of our lives and start over and over and over again. What seems like a never-ending cycle of new jobs, new homes, new schools, and most importantly new friends. I never imagined that I would be in search of adult friends.
Kids make finding friends so easy. They meet another kid once and instantly they are BFFs. There are so many different levels to finding adult friends. Then add the military lifestyle to it. Yep. Might as well forget it. So, my quest for new friends was nonexistent following this last move. I refused to be worried and decided to just focus on myself. And it felt SO good. Casually meeting people for coffee dates, hanging out during a few girl nights, going to church, taking the kids out for playdates…
Then the most amazing thing happened. Guess what?!
My tribe found me. One year later, I had a crisis and the tribe was there. I had no idea they were my tribe. Right, crazy! I was off just focusing on myself, not even thinking about the friends I had or didn’t have. These 3 ladies truly had my back without me even asking. They pushed me to do what I could not do on my own. They prayed and loved on me when I could barely open my mouth to speak. As I look back, I can see how the relationships just grew. There was no requirement for this friendship. We loved and accepted each other for all we had to offer. We all shared the same struggles but most of all we knew the life. This unforgiving military spouse life. That no one wants to admit sucks more times than not.
Finding your “tribe” may seem like a priority, but I’d like to urge you to look around and see if you don’t already have one. Maybe there are some friendships that you have put on the backburner because you have been focusing on YOUR journey. Maybe there are some broken relationships that need to be mended in spite of what went wrong. Just maybe finding a tribe is not what you are meant to be searching for in this season. Taking sometime to evaluate your life and where you are right now may open up room to cultivate those sisterhood tribes that make even the darkest times worth going through.